Is Asking for Your Instagram Before Meeting a Red Flag?
The Situation
"He asked for my Instagram before meeting in person"
The Brutal Truth
He’s more interested in checking out your social profile than getting to know you personally. This often points to superficial intentions and potential insecurity. Prioritize partners who seek genuine connection, not just an online presence.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might rush to fill the void, message him obsessively for reassurance, or seek validation through likes and comments on social media. This only reinforces their insecurities and distracts from finding a partner who values them beyond their online persona.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does my need for social media validation say about my self-worth and dating choices?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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