Navigating Mixed Signals: When She's Not Ready But Acts Committed
The Situation
"She said she's not ready for a relationship but acts like we're in one"
The Brutal Truth
Her words say she's unavailable, but her actions say the opposite. This is confusion wrapped in emotional unavailability. She's not ready to commit, so you might just be a placeholder until she's sure of what she wants.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince her to clarify her feelings or put pressure on her to define the relationship. This is wrong because it can push her further away and leads to unhealthy dependency on her validation.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does her mixed message reveal about your own relationship needs and boundaries?
✨ What To Do Next
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