He Says He Needs to Work on Himself but Is Seeing Someone Else
The Situation
"He said he needs to work on himself but is already seeing someone else"
The Brutal Truth
This is a classic case of selfishness. He’s avoiding emotional accountability while keeping his options open, proving he doesn’t value you or your connection. Self-work should mean closing off distractions, not bringing new people into the mix.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to 'prove' their worth by changing themselves to win him back, thinking they can make him choose them over the other person. This tactic undermines their self-value and perpetuates unhealthy patterns.
💭 Something to Reflect On
If you were to focus on your journey and self-worth instead of chasing him, what changes would you make in your life?
✨ What To Do Next
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