Why Nicknames in Dating Can Signal Disrespect and Control
The Situation
"He introduces me by a nickname because my real name is 'too hard'"
The Brutal Truth
He's minimizing and infantilizing you by using a nickname he thinks is easier. This shows a lack of respect for your identity and a tendency to control how you're perceived. It’s not affection; it’s condescension.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might laugh it off, try to be more 'approachable,' or even change their name to fit his preference, hoping to win his approval. This is a recipe for losing your sense of self.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I deserve to be treated with anything less than respect and recognition of who I am?
✨ What To Do Next
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