Why Dating Someone Who's Not Over Their Ex is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He said he's not over his ex but keeps pursuing me"
The Brutal Truth
He's not emotionally available and is using you as a distraction while still holding on to his past relationship. It's selfish and a clear sign he’s not ready for anything real with you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling to him, hoping that by showing him love and support, he'll change his mind and choose them over his ex. This is misguided as it undermines self-worth and reinforces unhealthy attachment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you can heal someone else's heart while neglecting your own?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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