Why You Shouldn’t Settle for One-Sided Effort in Relationships
The Situation
"I feel like I'm always the one making an effort in the relationship"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior screams that he’s either emotionally unavailable or just plain uninterested in investing in the relationship. If you're constantly reaching out and making plans, he's likely not that into you, and you’re worth way more than that.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze every interaction, worrying about why their partner isn’t putting in equal effort. This is wrong because it places the burden of the relationship's health on them, instead of recognizing that both parties should contribute equally.
💭 Something to Reflect On
“What would it look like to set healthier boundaries and refuse to settle for less than reciprocal effort?”
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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