When a Partner Says Relationships Shouldn't Be Hard, But Doesn't Try
The Situation
"He said relationships shouldn't be hard but doesn't try"
The Brutal Truth
He's pushing the idea that love should be easy, but his lack of effort tells you he’s avoiding responsibility. He wants the benefits of a relationship without putting in the work. It’s a classic case of mixed signals and emotional unavailability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might deny their own needs and normalize this behavior, thinking, 'If I just try harder, he'll change.' This mindset is toxic and reinforces their feelings of unworthiness instead of holding him accountable to his words.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I truly need from a partner to feel valued and secure in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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