Understanding Proposal Anxiety: Is He Leading You On?
The Situation
"She gets mad if I hint about proposals because she wants to be surprised"
The Brutal Truth
He’s dismissing your legitimate feelings about commitment and using her desire to be surprised as a shield. It shows he may not be ready for the seriousness of marriage, yet he doesn’t want to lose you. It’s manipulative and inconsiderate.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overcompensate by trying to change her mind, romanticizing the proposal, or tiptoeing around the topic to avoid conflict. This behavior only reinforces their partner's control over the situation and neglects their own needs and feelings.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth when you feel guilty for wanting clarity in the relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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