Protective or Controlling? Understanding the Red Flags in Dating
The Situation
"He said he's just protective but it feels controlling"
The Brutal Truth
His 'protectiveness' is a mask for toxic control. He feels insecure and uses manipulation to maintain power over you, rather than respecting your autonomy. Trust your feelings—this is a boundary issue, not a sign of affection.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
Anxious individuals might overanalyze his behavior, trying to justify it or seeking reassurance, which can reinforce his controlling tendencies. This is wrong, as it undermines your self-worth and promotes dependency.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries are you willing to set for yourself to ensure your safety and autonomy in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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