How to Recognize Emotional Unavailability in Dating
The Situation
"She never apologizes and always blames me"
The Brutal Truth
She refuses to take responsibility for her actions and puts all the blame on you, indicating her deep-seated emotional issues and inability to communicate effectively. This is not a partnership; it's a toxic game where you’re left feeling confused and guilty.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to overcompensate for her behavior by constantly seeking her approval, apologizing for things they haven't done wrong, or trying to appease her to restore harmony. This is a recipe for losing your self-worth and becoming trapped in a toxic cycle.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes that you must accept blame for someone else's actions, and how can you choose to stand in your own truth?
✨ What To Do Next
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