Red Flags: Talking About Kids Early in Dating
The Situation
"She talks about having kids together and we just started dating"
The Brutal Truth
She's rushing relationships and projecting future commitments to create a false sense of security. This isn’t a healthy way to gauge compatibility or assess real connection—they might be trying to trap you or deflect personal insecurities.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start planning their future together or reassuring her to keep her interested, which only accelerates pressure and confusion. This is wrong because it neglects genuine communication and the importance of mutual timing in relationships.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of my past experiences might be leading me to feel pressured into discussing a future I’m not ready for?
✨ What To Do Next
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