Signs He’s Not Changing: Understanding Why His Words Don’t Match Actions
The Situation
"He said he's working on himself but I don't see any change"
The Brutal Truth
He’s using ‘working on myself’ as a cover. In reality, he’s either avoiding accountability or doesn’t truly intend to change. His lack of effort is a personal choice, not an excuse. If you aren’t seeing changes, it’s time to reassess your value.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling tighter, overanalyzing every interaction, hoping to coax change through reassurance. This is toxic because it puts your worth in his hands and ignores the truth – change is a choice he hasn’t made.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What has your past taught you about investing in someone who isn’t actively working to grow?
✨ What To Do Next
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