Understanding the Silent Treatment in Dating: A Red Flag
The Situation
"He gives me the silent treatment when he's upset"
The Brutal Truth
His silent treatment when upset means he's emotionally unavailable and punishes you instead of communicating. This signals a lack of respect for your feelings, and he may be using control to manipulate the situation. This is relational dysfunction at its core.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to overanalyze his silence or overly apologize, fearing abandonment. This is unhealthy because it puts his emotions above your own worth and needs; it leaves you in a reactive state instead of addressing what you deserve.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would a healthy relationship look like if both partners communicated openly without resorting to silence?
✨ What To Do Next
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