Why Splitting Childcare Costs Early in Dating is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She wants me to split childcare costs even though we just started dating"
The Brutal Truth
He’s showing lack of understanding and respect for boundaries in early dating. Asking you to split childcare costs indicates a serious commitment expectation he’s not prepared for himself. It suggests he’s selfish and prioritizes convenience over a healthy dating dynamic.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to agree, thinking it will impress him or keep him interested. This is a mistake because it compromises your self-worth and ignores your feelings and needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I truly need in a relationship to feel valued and secure?
✨ What To Do Next
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