How to Handle Stonewalling in Dating: Red Flags and Self-Worth
The Situation
"He stonewalls me when I bring up issues"
The Brutal Truth
He’s ignoring your concerns because he can’t handle emotional intimacy. His stonewalling shows he’s unwilling to engage in constructive dialogue, which only serves to distance you further. He’s not ready for a real relationship or he simply doesn’t value your feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might panic and over-apologize, desperately trying to fix things. This is wrong because it reinforces his avoidance and makes you feel responsible for his emotional unavailability.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What patterns have you noticed in your past relationships that lead to emotional distancing?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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