Why Telling Someone They're Too Emotional is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He said I'm too emotional and need to calm down"
The Brutal Truth
He’s dismissing your feelings to avoid accountability, suggesting your emotions are the problem rather than addressing his own behavior. This is emotional manipulation cloaked as concern. It’s a tactic to silence valid feelings and protect himself from real intimacy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may apologize excessively or suppress their feelings to 'calm down' for him, seeking his approval rather than valuing their own emotions. This is harmful because it reinforces poor treatment and neglects self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it mean for you to feel validated in your emotions, and how can you ensure you express those needs in future relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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