Why You Shouldn't Settle for Toxic Blame in Relationships
The Situation
"She makes me feel like I'm always the problem"
The Brutal Truth
He’s projecting his insecurities onto you. Instead of owning his flaws, he shifts the blame to make you feel inadequate, which is manipulative and unhealthy. It's a red flag indicating emotional immaturity and unworthiness to maintain a healthy relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or self-blame, trying to appease him to avoid conflict. This is toxic because it neglects their own needs and reinforces unhealthy dynamics, making them lose sight of their own worth and boundaries.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would a loving partner look like for you, and how might you feel differently in that relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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