How to Handle a Partner Who Crosses Boundaries and Gaslights You
The Situation
"She crosses my boundaries and says I'm being too sensitive"
The Brutal Truth
When she crosses your boundaries and dismisses your feelings, she's showing disrespect for your needs. By labeling you as 'too sensitive,' she's deflecting responsibility and gaslighting you into questioning your reality. This pattern reveals emotional unavailability and unwillingness to engage genuinely.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or downplay their feelings to keep the peace, fearing that expressing their discomfort will drive them away. This is unhealthy behavior that ignores their boundaries and self-worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What beliefs about your worth are keeping you in situations where your boundaries aren’t respected?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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