Recognizing Red Flags: When Trust Issues Are Just Excuses
The Situation
"He said he's working on his trust issues but isn't"
The Brutal Truth
He's telling you he's working on his trust issues, but really, he's using it as a shield to avoid vulnerability and commitment. He's not making any real effort to address his behavior and is likely trying to keep you around without fully engaging.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may obsessively reassure him, over-apologize for things that aren’t their fault, or try to prove their worth—this only reinforces his excuses and keeps them in a cycle of uncertainty. It’s the wrong move because it deprives them of their own agency and self-respect.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you need to fix or save someone in order to be worthy of love?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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