Why Unannounced Visits by Your Date Are a Red Flag
The Situation
"He shows up unannounced when I'm decompressing"
The Brutal Truth
His arrival uninvited shows a lack of respect for your space and boundaries. This is a controlling behavior, indicating he believes his wants come before your needs. It’s a huge sign of emotional unavailability and entitlement.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to accommodate him, thinking they have to be available or prove their interest, which is toxic. It compromises their own well-being and reinforces unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your boundaries when you allow someone to interrupt your personal time unannounced?
✨ What To Do Next
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