Understanding Differences in Dating: Red Flags and Self-Worth
The Situation
"She said our differences don't matter but they clearly do"
The Brutal Truth
He's pretending that your differences don't matter to avoid confronting the issues in the relationship. This is a classic case of gaslighting—he wants to dismiss your valid concerns while you continue to doubt your own feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overthink and try to appease him by downplaying their own feelings, believing that if they ignore the differences, they'll be accepted. This is wrong because it invalidates their own needs and sets a precedent for unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What if you could embrace your differences as strengths instead of liabilities?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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