Understanding Late-Night Texts: Are They a Red Flag for Commitment?
The Situation
"She said she's looking for something serious but only messages late at night"
The Brutal Truth
She's signaling that she isn't serious about a relationship, despite her words. Late-night messages often mean she wants casual connections, not commitment. This inconsistency is a clear indicator of mixed intentions—listen to that gut feeling!
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might respond eagerly to her late-night texts, interpreting them as signs of interest or affection. This is wrong because it validates unhealthy patterns and ignores the lack of consistent communication, leading to more emotional distress.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to prioritize your needs and only engage with someone who matches your desires for a serious relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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