Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: When Change Doesn't Show
The Situation
"She said she's working on herself but I don't see change"
The Brutal Truth
He's trying to control the situation and judge her progress without giving her space to grow. His impatience hints he may be more invested in his own timeline than in supporting her healing journey. This selfishness is toxic and demonstrates a lack of understanding of real change.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may try to overcompensate by pushing her to change faster or constantly asking if she’s okay, creating more pressure. This approach is wrong because it undermines her autonomy and can lead to resentment.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How do I prioritize my needs while allowing others the space to grow?
✨ What To Do Next
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