Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Why Communication Matters
The Situation
"She expects me to know what she needs without asking"
The Brutal Truth
He’s blaming you for not communicating your needs, while expecting you to mind-read his. This is a toxic mix of entitlement and emotional unavailability—he isn’t willing to put in the effort to understand you or respect your needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to anticipate his needs and changes in behavior, sacrificing their own boundaries. This is dangerous because it leads to self-neglect and fosters a cycle of unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you feels responsible for anticipating someone else’s needs instead of expressing your own?
✨ What To Do Next
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