Understanding Mixed Signals: Love Without Commitment
The Situation
"He said he loves me but won't commit to being exclusive"
The Brutal Truth
He’s saying he loves you to keep you around without taking real responsibility. His refusal to commit shows he’s either scared of intimacy or wants to keep his options open. It’s a classic case of emotional manipulation and insecurity.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling harder, hoping that by proving their worth, he’ll change his mind. This approach only fuels their insecurity and often leads to deeper heartache. Instead, confidence comes from knowing when to walk away.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me is still holding on to someone who refuses to define our relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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