Why Venting About an Ex on a First Date is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He vented about his ex-wife during our first date"
The Brutal Truth
He's still emotionally entangled with his ex and lacks the maturity to handle his feelings. You’re witnessing unresolved baggage that suggests he’s not ready to engage in a healthy relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may try to reassure him or deflect the conversation back to positive topics, fearing that discussing tough emotions will lead him to withdraw. But this approach only enables unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What past patterns have I ignored that led me to overlook red flags in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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