Understanding the Dangers of Violent Anger in Relationships
The Situation
"He gets violent when he's angry"
The Brutal Truth
His anger issues indicate severe emotional instability and disrespect for your well-being. Violence, in any form, is unacceptable. This behavior reflects a deep-seated lack of control and can escalate, putting you in danger. Your safety and self-worth must take precedence.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to placate him, thinking they can soothe his anger or help him change. This is misguided because it ignores the reality that violence is rooted in his issues, not your behavior. Your job is not to fix him.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would I advise a friend to do if they were in a relationship where they felt unsafe?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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