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Why Talking About Weddings Before Engagement Is a Red Flag

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The Situation

"She talks about our wedding and we're not even engaged"

The Brutal Truth

Her eagerness to discuss a wedding when you're not even engaged might signal desperation or a lack of boundaries. It suggests she's projecting her desires onto you without acknowledging your current relationship status. This can indicate pressure, expectations, and emotional unavailability.

❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)

An anxious person might feel compelled to appease her by entertaining wedding talk even if they're uncomfortable, fearing rejection or conflict. This is wrong because it prioritizes her desires over their own feelings and boundaries, leading to resentment and confusion.

đź’­ Something to Reflect On

What boundaries do I need to establish in my relationships to feel secure and heard?

✨ What To Do Next

Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.

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