When His Words Don't Match His Actions: Red Flags in Dating
The Situation
"He said he's a great guy but his actions say otherwise"
The Brutal Truth
He’s telling you he’s a great guy to manipulate your perception, while his behavior indicates disregard for your feelings. He’s playing the role of a charming person but not following through with consistent caring actions.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling harder, seeking reassurance and validation, which only reinforces his inconsistency. This is wrong because it signals weakness and desperation, allowing him to retain control.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth when you're drawn to someone whose actions contradict their words?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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