When His Words Say Change but His Actions Don't: A Red Flag
The Situation
"He said he changed but his actions say otherwise"
The Brutal Truth
He's not genuinely trying to change; he’s saying what he thinks you want to hear while continuing his old patterns. This contradiction shows a lack of intention and emotional maturity.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
Anxious people often try to make sense of the conflicting behavior by seeking reassurance or over-explaining their feelings. This is futile; it only reinforces the cycle of doubt and dissatisfaction instead of promoting accountability in the relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you still believes in his words over his actions, and what does that say about your self-worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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