When Your Partner Uses Your Career Against You: Red Flags to Watch For
The Situation
"She uses my career as proof I would be a bad father"
The Brutal Truth
Her statement reveals a lack of respect for your choices and suggests she's projecting her fears about parenting onto you. It's a manipulation tactic that undermines your self-worth and creates unnecessary doubt about your capabilities as a father.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-explain or apologize for their career choices, attempting to validate their worth as a potential father. This is problematic because it shifts focus away from her unreasonable concern and fosters insecurity instead of asserting healthy boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to navigate a relationship without having to justify yourself to your partner?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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