The Red Flag of Wanting Control Without Contribution
The Situation
"He wants final say on the guest list but won't make one"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to control the situation without taking responsibility. This is manipulative behavior that suggests he’s only interested in power, not collaboration or mutual decision-making. It's a classic sign of someone who seeks dominance while remaining passive.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel compelled to comply with his wishes, trying to manage the situation by making lists for him or seeking his validation. This is toxic; it undermines your autonomy and reinforces unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your worth if you feel you need to please someone who won’t even participate?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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