Why Defining Your Relationship Is Scary but Necessary
The Situation
"I want to define the relationship but I'm scared to bring it up"
The Brutal Truth
He’s leaving you hanging, which means he’s either not ready for commitment or scared of losing you. His fear is your signal—he's emotionally unavailable, caught up in a situationship. You deserve clarity and intention, not this ambiguity.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person would likely push for a discussion, feeling desperate to get clarity and solidify the relationship. This is wrong because it compromises your self-worth and might pressure him into a decision he's not ready to make, which could backfire.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me is afraid to express my needs for fear of losing him?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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