Why Your Ex Is Jealous After the Breakup: Understanding The Signals
The Situation
"She broke up with me but gets jealous when I date someone new"
The Brutal Truth
She broke up with you, but now feels possessive when she sees you with someone new. This is a sign of emotional manipulation; she doesn’t want you, but can’t handle the thought of you moving on. That's selfish and shows insecurity.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might reach out to her to reassure her or get her back, which only reinforces her manipulative behavior. This reinforces unhealthy patterns and disregards their self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do you need to validate your own worth outside of her opinions or feelings?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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