Understanding Commitment Issues: When Labels Don’t Matter but Emotions Do
The Situation
"He said labels don't matter but gets upset when I date others"
The Brutal Truth
He’s trying to keep you on a string without investing in you. His words say one thing, but his jealousy shows he wants ownership of you without commitment. That’s manipulation, plain and simple.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might start overthinking your worth and reach out to reassure him, which only reinforces his behavior. This is wrong because it compromises your self-respect and keeps you stuck in uncertainty.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What belief do I hold that makes me think I need to justify my worth to someone who doesn’t commit?
✨ What To Do Next
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