Dating Someone Exclusive While They're Still on Dating Apps?
The Situation
"He said we're exclusive but he's still on dating apps"
The Brutal Truth
His words may claim exclusivity, but his actions scream commitment issues. He's keeping his options open while stringing you along, showing he either doesn't prioritize you or lacks the maturity to communicate honestly.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start overanalyzing every interaction and seek constant reassurance. This can lead to obsessive thoughts and potentially labeling themselves as 'needy,' which isn't healthy. You deserve clarity, not confusion.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
If you were to envision a relationship where both partners prioritize honesty and commitment, what would it look like? What steps can you take to cultivate that for yourself?
✨ What To Do Next
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