Why It's Red Flag When He Wants to Be Exclusive but Keeps Dating Apps
The Situation
"He said he wants to be exclusive but won't delete dating apps"
The Brutal Truth
He’s not ready to commit. Saying he wants exclusivity while keeping dating apps means he’s keeping his options open and is likely still fishing for attention. Don’t ignore this—it’s a major sign he doesn’t value you or the relationship enough.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling to him tighter, hoping that their loyalty will convince him to delete the apps. This is wrong because it puts your worth in his hands, ignoring the reality of his mixed signals.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only date someone who makes their intentions crystal clear?
✨ What To Do Next
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