How to Handle Financial Pressure in a Relationship: Red Flags
The Situation
"She wants three bridal showers and I'm footing the bills"
The Brutal Truth
He's putting the financial burden on you while she enjoys the spotlight. This isn’t about love; it’s a power play where you’re left feeling used. If you're paying for her desires, are your needs even being considered?
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overcompensate by agreeing to pay for everything in hopes of winning her over. This is damaging because it reinforces unhealthy patterns of people-pleasing and ignores their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What about this situation makes you feel unworthy of a partner who contributes equally to the relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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