He Borrows Money and Never Pays You Back: What It Means
The Situation
"He borrows money from me and never pays me back"
The Brutal Truth
He's using you for financial gain and has no respect for your boundaries or your worth. This behavior shows he lacks accountability and gratitude, and he likely sees you as a resource rather than a partner.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel compelled to continue lending money in hopes of gaining his approval or keeping the relationship intact. This is wrong because it reinforces dependency and lowers your self-worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I need to sacrifice my needs for someone else's convenience?
✨ What To Do Next
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