What to Do When He Pressures You for Sex While Taking It Slow
The Situation
"He said he wants to take things slow but pressures me for sex"
The Brutal Truth
He claims he wants to take things slow as a way to manipulate you into sex. It’s about control, not sincerity. His actions don’t align with his words, and you deserve someone who respects your boundaries without pressure.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might give in and have sex to avoid conflict, thinking it’ll make him happy or bring them closer. This is toxic because it sacrifices your boundaries for his comfort, which can damage your self-worth in the long run.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you must compromise your needs for his comfort?
✨ What To Do Next
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