Understanding Desires: Why His Words Don't Match His Actions in Dating
The Situation
"He said sex doesn't matter but gets upset when I say no"
The Brutal Truth
He claims sex isn't important, but his emotional reaction shows he’s using it as a tool for validation. His frustration when you say no is a red flag for control issues and lack of respect for your boundaries.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to overcompensate by agreeing to sex despite feeling uncomfortable, believing they can win his affection or prevent conflict. This is dangerous; it undermines their own boundaries and self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries would I establish for a healthy relationship, and how would I feel if they were respected?
✨ What To Do Next
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