Understanding Why He Pulls Away When You Get Close
The Situation
"He pulls away every time I get close to him"
The Brutal Truth
He likely fears intimacy and deep connections, pushing you away to protect himself. This behavior is a sign of emotional unavailability and avoids true closeness, leaving you confused and frustrated.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may try to chase him even harder, seeking validation and trying to prove their worth. This is wrong because it sacrifices their own self-esteem and perpetuates unhealthy dynamics.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only date someone who embraces closeness without fear?
✨ What To Do Next
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