He Wants You to Quit Your Job: A Red Flag of Manipulation
The Situation
"He wants me to quit my job to prove I love him"
The Brutal Truth
This is manipulation, pure and simple. He’s trying to control you and measure your love through sacrifice, which is a major red flag. Love isn’t about giving up your independence; it’s about mutual respect and support.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to comply, fearing that refusing will jeopardize the relationship. This mindset is dangerous because it sacrifices self-worth for someone else’s demands, compromising personal needs and aspirations.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes it’s okay to sacrifice your career and aspirations for someone else’s comfort?
✨ What To Do Next
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