What Hiding Messages From an Ex Says About Your Partner
The Situation
"He hides messages from his ex about the kids"
The Brutal Truth
He's not being transparent about his communication with his ex, which indicates a lack of respect for your feelings and possibly unresolved issues. This behavior is a red flag for emotional unavailability and a lack of commitment to building trust with you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start snooping through his messages, seeking reassurance and validation. This behavior is wrong because it stems from insecurity and trust issues, creating more anxiety instead of fostering open communication and boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to honor my worth in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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