Understanding Red Flags: Venmo Payments from an Ex
The Situation
"She has Venmo payments from an ex she won't explain"
The Brutal Truth
This woman is hiding something significant. Those payments suggest unresolved feelings for her ex. If she can’t explain, she's likely still attached emotionally, which means she’s not fully available for a healthy relationship with you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start obsessing over the payments, questioning their worth and worrying about potential betrayal. This only deepens insecurities and masks the real issue: if she isn't clear with her intentions, it's a red flag!
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you is afraid to walk away when someone can’t fully commit?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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