When Immigration Is Used as Manipulation in Relationships
The Situation
"He holds the immigration process over my head during arguments"
The Brutal Truth
He's weaponizing your immigration status to control you emotionally, making it clear that he can threaten your security in the relationship whenever he feels challenged. This shows a complete lack of respect and love.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might desperately try to appease him or avoid conflict, agreeing to whatever he says out of fear of jeopardizing the immigration situation. This is wrong because it compromises their self-worth and safety in the relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How would you feel if someone valued your worth beyond your immigration status?
✨ What To Do Next
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