How Judging a Partner's Income Can Indicate Toxic Behaviors
The Situation
"She judges me for not making enough money"
The Brutal Truth
Her judgment about your income reveals her insecurity and need for validation. Instead of nurturing a supportive relationship, she prioritizes external measures of success, which can lead to toxic dynamics and erode your self-worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overcompensate by overwhelming her with attempts to prove their worth, leading to unhealthy dynamics where they lose sight of their own value. This only reinforces her judgment.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I need to prove my worth through financial success, and how is that tied to my self-esteem?
✨ What To Do Next
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