Understanding Toxic Behavior: Mental Health as an Excuse for Bad Actions
The Situation
"He uses his mental health as an excuse for bad behavior"
The Brutal Truth
His mental health is a convenient cover for his toxic behavior. Instead of taking responsibility, he uses it to manipulate your empathy and excuses his actions. This isn't about his struggles; it's about his unwillingness to change or seek help.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start excessively accommodating his needs, fearing that if they don't, he will leave. This is a dangerous pattern that only enables his bad behavior, ignoring their own needs and boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes that I have to tolerate bad behavior just because someone opens up about their struggles?
✨ What To Do Next
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