Navigating Different City Dreams in Dating
The Situation
"She wants to live in a different city than I do"
The Brutal Truth
She's signaling a lack of commitment by choosing to live in a different city. This implies she's not prioritizing the relationship and might not see it as long-term. It’s a red flag indicating possible emotional unavailability or an unwillingness to compromise.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may start making plans to compromise, like relocating or changing their life for him. This is wrong because it sets a precedent of self-sacrifice and undervalues their own needs and boundaries.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How willing are you to compromise on your important life goals for someone who isn’t fully committed?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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