Why You Shouldn't Overstay Your Visa for a Partner's Convenience
The Situation
"He wants me to overstay my visa because he hates paperwork"
The Brutal Truth
His request is about shirking responsibility, putting his needs over your legal and personal safety. He’s avoiding discomfort while expecting you to take risks. He sees your situation as a burden instead of valuing your autonomy. This isn’t love—it’s selfishness.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to comply, thinking it’s a way to prove their commitment. This mindset is dangerous; it sacrifices your well-being for his convenience and can lead to deeper resentment and potential legal troubles.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries am I willing to set to protect my future and autonomy?
✨ What To Do Next
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